Learning to let things go may be one of the hardest actions you will take to set yourself free from the bondages of control. Trying to control others will also control you. Trying to change others will keep your own growth stuck. The best way to overcome the anger, suffering, and emotional roller coaster of trying to change others is to first identify the things you can control—you can control your perspective. You can control how you react when someone else disappoints you. You can control how you view life, people, and how the world works. Once you understand that everybody’s free will is respected by a divine law of individual sovereignty, you may begin exercising and applying your own free will. Once you begin accepting the other person as is, a new opportunity to change and improve yourself will open. Begin by illuminating the shadow of perfectionism so you may be set free of the bondage of your shadow’s control over you.
The good news is that perfectionism can be defeated through a broadening of your perspective of the human experience itself. Realize that no human is perfect, nor are we designed to be perfect. To take it a step further, the point of life isn’t perfection, but present perfect presence.
Learn how to set yourself free by integrating the perfectionist shadow with the present perfect presence of the good spirit. What is present perfect presence? It is the ability to stay in the moment and accept everything in that moment as is, the way it is, and being perfectly content, joyful, and serene knowing that things are exactly as they are right now. It takes a deeper level of trust in a Higher Power that things will manifest on its own timing according to Divine Timing, rather than your time. This deep level of trust in Divine Timing will help you stay in the moment of right now.
So how do you practice the art and craft of staying in the present? Paradoxically, you stay in the present by writing about the past. Ghosts will haunt until they are heard. Once heard, they are released and the present becomes more vivid, alive, and real for you. Expressive Writing is one of the most therapeutic self-help modalities of getting to the root cause of perfectionism. Once you know the truth, the truth will set you free.
The Love Story Program is a journal-writing platform built with your challenges of perfectionism in mind. More than just a place to get to the root cause of your perfectionistic ways, our program includes an online community of kindred spirits – making it the most creative way to find a support group for the condition you face. Our organization provides a way to stimulate, structure, and support you integrate the shadow of perfectionism into the spirit of perfect present presence.
Over 750 journal entries. 100 Artist interviews. One convenient, virtual portal.
All created to activate your subconscious.
Just search for your pain point, and find inspiration through another author’s entry.
Whatever you’re struggling with, someone else has probably written about it. If not, you get to be the first to help someone who needs it.
The Love Story offers unlimited group writing sessions, which we call: “The Mirror Darkly.” Enlist the help of our qualified facilitators, and join based on your schedule. Perfect for beginners, or if you’re always on the go.
Then, The Producer’s Playbook digs even deeper – to discern your passions, pursuits, and purpose through shadow illumination, discernment, and integration.
We get to the root of the problem by providing you with your solution – the opposite of a one-size-fits-all approach.
You will find support from other Journal-Artists, and even support others in the process.
Our community is designed to garner support, whether that is through the hosting, journaling, resonate-editing, pen-pal or publishing experience.
With our website, you are an integral part of the family. You’re never truly alone.
Explore the Root Cause of Your Perfectionism Through a Mirror Darkly
“For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.” — 1 Corinthians 13:12, KJV
Expressive Writing is an effective way to transform trauma into creative drama. When journaling online about our painful truths inside fiction, we can safely bring our “shadows” to light, or understand what triggers us on a deeper level. Sometimes, we need others to validate our experiences to feel less alone. And others need that in return. It’s a win-win situation.
The Mirror Darkly Workshops: 3 simple steps to keep you moving forward.
Part I: “Now I know in part”— Deep listening for kindred resonances. Stimulate your subconscious.
Part II: “But then shall I know”— Journal 15 Minutes, distraction-free.
Part III: “Even as also I am known” — Share & Resonate-Edit our virtual diary entries. What catches your attention? Why is that?
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Self-Expression – or Shadow Work – is never easy, so we made it easier for you to get started.
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Told in fiction. Based on a true story.
Either way, we hear you.
What’s more, there may be another reader out there who’s hanging on your every word.
Becoming self-aware gives you the power to break toxic habits, make positive changes in your life, and become more mature. Emotional health is just as important as physical health.
Self-respect is earned through watching yourself set healthy boundaries, knowing what you like and don’t like, & becoming confident in who you are through self-acceptance.
Owning your shadow – and learning how to integrate it – will effectively increase your self-confidence and boost your self-esteem. Once you understand yourself better, you can start to accept it.